Melva Gifford

Took notes on a YouTube presentation. Enjoy. The link at the bottom.

• Analyze verses speculate
• Manage your bias
• Recognize evasiveness
• Beware of aggression
• Difference between convince verses convey
• Know what non-verbal cues mean
• Before you make an interpretation of body language you need to see what their normal behavior is. Someone may naturally fold their arms.
• Need to identify the stimulus behind the questions. It is the question the interviewer asks. The movement needs to come when the question is asked. There are two parts to a response, timing, and clusters. The first behaver shows in the first 5 sec.
• Want to see more than one lying behavior during that answer.
• Ignore truthful behaver, because deceptive people can give truthful answers.
• People want to manipulate us to believe in them.
• People who fib will often go into excessive in-depth answers. What do you do here? Honest people give their job titles. A fiber will give details of job duties.
• See if the person gives you an answer when you ask the question. They may give a long answer but it is not the answer to the question you asked. It’s called failure to deny.
• An honest person will directly deny what they are accused of
• Exclusionary qualifiers, for the most part. Not really, fundamentally are the words. The answer begs for a follow-up question. The interviewer will do a follow-up question for clarity.
• Aggression: attack the interviewer. It weighs heavier as possible.
• Attacking a 3rd party i.e.: the store procedures are wrong.
• Quick to anger.
• Inappropriate display of concern. Murder asked did you kill his wife. He smiled, no I didn’t. Why did he smile?
• Convincing statements: if someone goes into their past records of deniability when you ask someone if they did something. I’m a good person and a good worker. When someone tries to convince you of something and they never answer.
• Notice the words. If someone says “I wouldn’t do such and such” is not the same as “I didn’t kill my kids”
• When you hear protesting statements (clusters of two or more convincing statements) they sound true. Ask her to prove it. If she gives convincing statements but never answers looks bad on her.
• Perception qualifies are things what “I swear to God”; the things people do and way to dress up their lives. Honestly, Franky.
• Non-verbal: Listen for a pause. Does the motivation to pause match the question? If you see body behavior that seems to be conflict behavior is suspicious.
• Anchor point: are things that anchor you to the world or ground. Feet on the ground folded arms. Sitting the chair, your bottom is the anchor point. Dangling foot on crossed legs > watch it.
• Grooming gestures: dress ups the lie fix hair straighten the tie.
• Hands to face. Play with nose or ears.
• The more people talk, the worse it is.
• You put in pauses between your questions and the answer because people feel uncomfortable with silence. You do it just south to feeling uncomfortable (3-5 sec) because people have a tendency to fill quiet space and will often fill the space with convincing statements or other lying traits.
• On phone interviews don’t let our mind drift. Pay attention to their answers, not to your next question.
• Check out book: Spy the lie
• link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pni_kDv9BsU

Do you have any additional ideas on how to catch a liar or how to read body language? If so, please feel free to share.

Notes from a talk. Any misinformation is the fault of the note taker.

• DC 28:30 collect things in your bosom. If you are prepared you shall not fear.
• DC 42:31-32: take care of the poor and the needy.
• We need to work hard to help those around us.
• DC 58:26-28 take tasks on our shoulders
• To be spiritually self-reliant: we have to do our own study and prayer and action.
• Once a month is a fast day, where saints give to the needy.
• A generous fast offering goes to people in need.
• Saints are encouraged to increase their education
• We are taught to get out of debt
• Church has a welfare system.

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I took notes during the TM conference. Any inaccuracies are the fault of the note taker.

• Lead by example: see what members’ goals and interests
• How to be an effective mentor and establish a relationship: need to assess what the member is wanted to get out of the program. Everyone approaches Toastmasters from a different angle. We need compassion on their ability to engage in the program. Get initial interest and then as they attend check their status. Ask them about their speech progression. Acknowledge their success. Everyone is amazing for even trying.
• Most important a charismatic a leader possess: integrity, you talk the talk you need to walk the walk. Set the example for people. You need to be early to meetings, prepared and ready to go.
• Be honest with people. Be staring forest. Be honest on reviews. Be compassionate and kind. As a leader, you can think what you like but you can’t’ always say what you want. On a new member be kind and be encouraging and kind to new members. Be the person you should be.
• When you’ve reached the high level of leadership what do you learn now? Keep track of member and see how they are doing. Inspire members to advance higher into Toastmasters and work on leadership and advance communication.
• Common mistakes leaders make: as we embrace change we tend to over explain our reasons you need to look for the next step of progression.
• Resources to seek on advance leadership: as you meet members, think of how they might be good in future leadership.
• If you’re trying to do it all alone you’re doing it wrong. Need to access scope of resources past members who held positions directors, and mentors and fellow members. 3 different levels of leadership. A. a club member. B. district leadership will stretch you. C. international level. You can grow in that level and take advantage of all those resources. D. speechcraft:
• How to address a leader who becomes a little Napoleon and takes over everything. While someone doing mentor sit with someone supported her and the member did the work under the mentoring of the leader.
• Here is the perspective of tiles in the organization; the titles represent credential of what that person has accomplished. It is an acknowledgment of our own growth. When getting praise for your title that is a great time to acknowledge those who have helped and motored you. As a leader maintain an attitude of gratitude. When people do things for others as they have you. Pass it on to future leaders.
• When meeting a person for the first time what do you do when meeting that person: look at their eyes and figure out what they are thinking? What are they feeling? Take an interest in the other person. Ask the person a question and they have a chance to talk.

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Notes from a talk. Any misinformation is the fault of the note taker.

• Check out Russel M Nelson may 2017 conference.
• Learn of Christ by Study the scriptures, prayer and to serve in our calling fully.
• In the topical guide (on page 240 it has a list of 18 pgs. of Jesus Christ references. This may make a great way to study the scriptures for a yr study.
• Document on the website called The Living Christ. > Link
• The atonement is an act performed by Jesus Christ. The verbs that represent the actions of Christ’s atonement. Broke, suffered, paid, blots out, deliver, repentance,
• We are insufficient to be saved; it requires an act of Christ to fill the gap.
• We have a tendency to move forward and view the rearview mirror of our past mistakes. The atonement can cleanse our past when we repent. We can direct our attention to moving forward.
• If we invest time in learning of the atonement we will gain increased faith in Christ. Faith motivates us to action.
• Some people will do a morning affirmations of positive thoughts of themselves and their positive relationships with Christ and God.
• Mark 5:24-34 a woman touched his cloak
• Just be grateful
• Israel was told to remember the Lord.
• Lord healed 10 leapers and only one said thanks where are the other 9?
• Why didn’t we give thanks: things are ok and we don’t think to thank God.

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Good: punctual

Bad:   punctural

I keep wanting to add the r. We’ll see if this works. When you are punctual you avoid being Really late. So avoid the R in punctural.

Here is a second attempt, you ALways want to be PunctuAL. ALways.

If you have a better idea, please feel free to share it in the comment section of this blog.

At the toast master’s conference, A presenter talked about resolving conflicts. He does it professionally. I had his name but I spelled it so badly that I couldn’t tell what it is. These are the rest of my notes from last week.

 Focus on something that is most important to yourself and will be important for yourself

• When you prepare your speech ask yourself, what do you want your audience to do differently or feel differently and make sure that message is in your opening.
• Texas joke: A man heard a whamp whampe whamp under his car. Got out and change the wrong change tire
• Toaster masters are there for you to practice your stories and practice our antidotes.
• How do we create open body close body? That’s the basic structure. I’m doing a speech on change tell the story you need to change the right thing.
• Do not formulate a response to talk to an angry person.
• Everything in between those stories is to grow the point of your key message.
• Audience participation and have them do things.
• Do not give out handouts as the audience will look at them instead of you.
• No power point> get our audience involved.
• You interact with your audience to connect.
• Intercept attention: do it by asking a question. Ask a question that stimulates a yes response.
• engagement: you engage your audience. Do it as quickly as possible. Stories engage.
• Establish credibility: Even the intro spiffed it up. 97 success rate. The intro can tell how the speech will help them. And see how the intro. Tell how the presentation will help the audience.
• Teach them something. Inform and engage.
• Keep a pen and paper to gather stories.
• Reactions for survive response is for success.
• Once you learn their feelings and thoughts > come up with a solution that will be a win for both sides.

Do you have something to add? If yes, please do so in the comment section of this blog. If not Toastmasters, what organization has helped you and How?

I listened to a talk a church. Here are some notes. Enjoy.

• Be an example to others is through charity
• Moroni 7:45-48 in charity sufferouth long…
• We can show charity by simple acts of kindness.
• We can follow the invitation to light the world event, activates. It’s a series of events that begin on Dec 1 to do a small act of kindness and read a scripture.
• Sharing the gospel is a means to share the light.
• Family history work: sharing the gospel with the dead.
• Attend the temple as often as possible
• Do research to identify ancestors
• Help with the church index program.
• Contribute family history info to the website.
• Participate in family organization. Coordinate your gemological efforts with other family members.

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Good: paranoid

Bad:   perionoid

If I can remember PARA-noid and pronounce it as such I might remember the better spelling.