Building Functional & Rewarding Relationships

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

Notes from a toastmaster’s meeting

– Perhaps like me, you wish your relationships were better or different.
– If you wait for someone to change, you may wait forever.
– Self-sufficiency and realize that you are enough. Don’t need someone else to complete you. Once this sinks in, you’ll stop asking others to change for you.
– Need to change your mindset
– Was comfortable in blame zone but needed to shift thinking.
– Comfortable and practical relationship.

    3 guideposts we can follow to deal with diff people.

– 1) Relinquish desire to change because they may not be capable of change. Our responsibility to accept their limitations
– 2) stop expecting acknowledgment or apology that they may be incapable of offering. They will let us down but we take accountability of our actions.
– 3) we must act ourselves to improve the relationship or accept as is. We do not need these relationships to be complete. It is enough to know we love them.
– Remember we can’t control people’s actions helps to get to non-judgment.
– Repeat out loud: if I wait for ___ to change, I may wait forever. It is not his/her responsibility to make me feel better. No matter how hard they try, I might still feel bad.
– Stop expecting an apology and accept the relationship as is. These guideposts help see the relationship with new eyes.

Do you have something to add? If so please do so in the comment section of this blog.

Posted in The Things I've Recently Learned | Comments Off on Building Functional & Rewarding Relationships

Atonement # 2:

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

These are notes from a church meeting. Any misinformation is the fault of the note taker.

– Isiah 52: 7: feet of good tidings. Thy God reigneth
– In the old days, runners would take messages from village to village.
– Missionaries bring messages from the lord.
– Angels to some
– The prophets bring messages
– Conference brings messages
– Parents can bring the gospel to their kids.
– Investigators gain through acquired knowledge by asking a lot of questions and getting feelings of a confirmation through prayer.
– We need to be converted to each concept bit by bit. The spirit can touch us at different times and we are continually converted to new principals of the gospel.
– If we lose faith, we can reconvert by asking again.
– Isaiah 50:5-7: savior feelings about the atonement. Will not turn his face away.
– Isaiah 51:6 look eyes up to heavens. My salvation shall be forever.
– Dc: 19:15-20: God suffered these things for all if they repent.
– The atonement fulfills justice
– Isaiah 53:2-4: Christ despised by man. He carried our sorrows.
– No matter what fee feel or go through, we can know that Christ understands.
– People have gone to church-sponsored addiction classes and they feel the spirit of God in the session and visitors have the hope of redemption through Christ.
– Christ hung out with sinners and that show he is willing to forgive our sins.
– Someone coming back from a trial of faith can be as difficult as someone coming back from addiction.
– Isaiah 53:5 Christ went through stripes external and internal.
– Isaiah 53:6-7: all like shop have gone astray. Jesus Christ brought like lamb to the slaughter. He said nothing.
– Romans 8:16-17: spirit beareth witness we are the children of God. We are joint heirs to Christ.
– Isaiah 51:1,4,7: listen to and obeying God.
– Isaiah 51:12-13: remember Christ don’t fear Satan.
– Isaiah 52:1-2 beautiful garment > check make convents we put on the full armor of God.

Do you have something to add? If so, please do so in the comment section of this blog.

Posted in The Things I've Recently Learned | Comments Off on Atonement # 2:

Perspective of a black officer

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

This is a video from the Candace Owens Show: Brandon Tatum

https://www.prageru.com/video/the-candace-owens-show-brandon-tatum/

Posted in The Things I've Recently Learned | Comments Off on Perspective of a black officer

30 Words You Are Probably Getting Wrong!

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

This is from Prowritingaid.

https://prowritingaid.com/art/898/30-words-you-are-probably-getting-wrong!.aspx?utm_source=april10&utm_medium=mistaken

Posted in The Things I've Recently Learned | Comments Off on 30 Words You Are Probably Getting Wrong!

Amazon data 2019 to sell more books

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

Notes from a webinar I attended. The presentation was given by Alex Newton. Any misinformation is the fault o the note taker.

kindle select eBook, global fund USE million:
– 2014> 32 mill
– 2015> 132 mill
– 2016 > 186 Mill
– 2017> 223 mill
– 2018> 268 mill
– top eBook sellers 95% romance are eBooks
– SF/f 68 % eBooks
– Christian books 50% eBooks
– Digital books continue to grow.

The percentage share of kindle royalty pie>
– indie authors 37%
– big five 20%,
– amazon imprints 19%
– Other publishers 20 %
– 70K titles added every month.

Doing a search on Amazon, *search box in Amazon: tricks for Amazon search keys:
– use , or space as the AND (not always reliable)
– use |as OR
– use – as NOT
– use ” for phrase search (not always reliable)
– use categories as filters. defined by sales of your old books and current books. Best for bestseller badges.
– If your book is not in the right category it will not sell. search confined to matching categories.
*best seller list > driven by purchases or downloads. books that sell more recently to today get a higher score. the ranking of your current book will be judged by your past eBook sales and it ranks you by the two numbers of sales.
*browse categories
*book product pages

Find markets and categories that are right for you.
1. How to choose your genre wisely.
– Need to love what you write.
– Craft > have to be good at plotting
– Do you have the knowledge to write with authenticity?
– When the above three merge it become the magic zones.

2. Where are the high sales?
– Romance, mystery and suspect, and SF and F
– Under that nonfiction and teen and A.
– Erotica sales dropping and clean romance growing.

3. Low competition:
– Romance-paranormal high sales and high competition
– Romance clean and wholesome high sales.
– Teen & young adults- romance – SF & dystopian. Nitch market
– Science fiction & fantasy-science fiction-military high sales
– Literature 7 fiction-literary criticism subjects & themes science fiction and fantasy > low sales

4: seek categories easy to rank to win first plc seller status

5. Broad exposure:
– The same book can be in different genera.
– Contact Amazon and tell them I want to authorcental.amazong.com/gp/help/contactus > you need to give them the precise category path.

6. Topical fit> select categories write a book about Japanese gardens> select that exact calorie

7. Balance>
Many authors will see how their competitors list their books.

At the bottom of the book page i.e. business writing skills.
– Click on the buses writing skills, is a link. Will shows a category on the right side
– In this example of business & money
– Under that, skills
– Under that category of business writing.

Want to add to the list? Please do so in the comment section of this blog.

Posted in Rock Soup | Comments Off on Amazon data 2019 to sell more books

How to build a cybersecurity awareness program

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

These are notes from a toastmaster meeting.

How many licks to get to the center of security awareness? 5 stages.
1) Human survey
2) Compliance based
3) growth/behavior change
4) Long term sustainment 5) metrics.
#1. The most important thing to do first is to get executives involved. If no visibility, you won’t be successful. They give you a budget and sign checks. Individuals identify attacks and avoid the breach as long as possible.
#2. Regulatory requirement. Every program regulated and compliance based. Gov’t making sure we do our jobs. IT Industry Standard, GDPR, Education, Financial, Government, Frameworks, Healthcare, Industrial controls.
#3 growth or behavior change. Build a culture of cybersecurity awareness. Know what phishing is, malware, worms. Etc. Weird things happening to the computer. IT will know signs of attacks. Cybersecurity should be part of the business. Will be more successful if integrated. We can’t know about the incident if people don’t report it.
#4 long term sustainment. Culture of cyber security awareness. Work with the executive team and find key people in an organization to help the program.
#5 Metrics to track progress and measure impact. Have to do for compliance and want to show an auditor that you are meeting regulatory requirements. If you don’t have a budget to roll out the program (IT guy) you can ask for help, use YouTube, aarp, sans, dhs,
stop.
think.
Connect, know before
5 stages of a good cybersecurity awareness program. Human survey, compliance-based, growth/behavior change, long term sustainment, metrics. Not going to happen overnight. Could take 3-5 years to implement.

Do you have something to add? If you do, please share in the comment section of this blog.

Posted in The Things I've Recently Learned | Comments Off on How to build a cybersecurity awareness program

Modern-day prophets can guide us

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

These are notes from a church meeting.

– Ames 3:7
– Scripture study combined with modern prophets gives us a path to spiritual resilience.
– We need to gain a personal testimony for ourselves.
– We have the opportunity to get personal revelations from God.
– Neil Anderson: called the prophet as the watchmen on the tower
– Don’t follow the prophet in blind faith. We need to pray and gain our personal revelation that what the prophets say is from God.
– Some don’t see the blessings they’re getting. Take a look back in your life and you can see the blesses you’ve received.
– A prophets does not stand between you and the savior but stand beside you and points to the way of the savior.
– He points the way on how we can be more like the savior.
– Adversity can help us become closer to the savior.

Do you have something to add? If so, please do so in the comment section of this blog.

Posted in The Things I've Recently Learned | Comments Off on Modern-day prophets can guide us

Paul Harvey – An Easter Story

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s3s8Tdi5Xb4

Posted in The Things I've Recently Learned | Comments Off on Paul Harvey – An Easter Story

Spelling similar

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

Good similar
Bad: similair

One thing that is similar is the word has two is. I might remember lar by how it is pronounced.

Have a better idea? Please share in the comment section of this blog.

Posted in The Things I've Recently Learned | Comments Off on Spelling similar

Institutionalized Writing an ensemble casts

Facebooktwitterredditpinterestlinkedin

These are notes I took from a wonderful writing symposium called Life, the Universe and Everything. We have a lot of talented people in Utah and visitors with a great deal of knowledge. Any Misinformation is the fault of the note taker.

Ensemble examples:
– The Lord of the rings is an example
– Some epics fantasy with 3-5 point of view.
– Some characters who each have unique skills or different opinions. Like movie heist.
– If you only have one character the world will not feel big.
– Endor’s game is an example of an ensemble cast.
– How to deal with group dynamics? Pick the one who might have a good punch line for humor.
– Tend to balance characters that are balanced with screen time. Try to connect the other characters around a certain middle person and revolving around that central character. That center person acts as the eye of the hurricane.
– When writing a bunch of characters I try to make them distinct. If you remove all the dialog tabs can the reader tell who is speaking?
– A way to make characters different. They have different goals and different characters. Helps their respond differently from one another.
– When you reach a point in your writing, that you don’t care what happens to a character, something is wrong.
– Game of Thrones: the characters seem to continue to transform themselves.
– In a story, the characters are moving as a group for a certain goal in a scene. But they are also running mini directions as individuals keep the reader engaged.
– One author will use a word in one scene that illustrates one character’s point of view and then uses the same word in the first paragraph of the next sense that illustrates from a completely different point of view.
– Robert Craze author has a reoccurring detective. The detective chapters are in the first person and the other character chapters are in the third person.
– The more point of view characters the more difficult assignments you give yourself and it can become unwieldy. Need to make all the characters are interesting
– As writers, be careful in projecting ourselves into our writing i.e.: an angry white male.
– Guardian of the galaxy: rocket and Grut stand out with no other characters that are furry and a tree. Snappy bits odd dialog that define them.
– Rocket and Grut are already buddies and they are invested in the same goal.
– They are all working tougher to escape. Epic fantasy usually has multiple characters.

Want to add to the list? Please do so in the comment section of this blog.

Posted in Rock Soup | Comments Off on Institutionalized Writing an ensemble casts