Notes from a toastmaster’s meeting

– Perhaps like me, you wish your relationships were better or different.
– If you wait for someone to change, you may wait forever.
– Self-sufficiency and realize that you are enough. Don’t need someone else to complete you. Once this sinks in, you’ll stop asking others to change for you.
– Need to change your mindset
– Was comfortable in blame zone but needed to shift thinking.
– Comfortable and practical relationship.

3 guideposts we can follow to deal with diff people.

– 1) Relinquish desire to change because they may not be capable of change. Our responsibility to accept their limitations
– 2) stop expecting acknowledgment or apology that they may be incapable of offering. They will let us down but we take accountability of our actions.
– 3) we must act ourselves to improve the relationship or accept as is. We do not need these relationships to be complete. It is enough to know we love them.
– Remember we can’t control people’s actions helps to get to non-judgment.
– Repeat out loud: if I wait for ___ to change, I may wait forever. It is not his/her responsibility to make me feel better. No matter how hard they try, I might still feel bad.
– Stop expecting an apology and accept the relationship as is. These guideposts help see the relationship with new eyes.

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