Influences within the home:

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The object lesson for today is the importance of root and branches influences upon a family tree. I hope this lesson can be of use to youth ministries, family counselors, devotionals and family home evenings.

This family tree represents things learned at home. The roots are parents’ experiences and attitudes that provide the foundation of belief within the home. A key example of this is how a parent’s belief and trust in God can be taught to their children through example and education.

Samples of influence  may also include our ancestors, historical figures of the country, or maybe even inventors who created the conveniences of modern life. The roots of a tree can also include the experiences of each parent that helps create and define their moral character.

The trunk of the tree can represent the incubator of daily life of the family at home. This is where children’s attitudes are forged.

Each branch from the trunk can represent a different attitude or opinion about life. One branch might emphasize the importance of reading or being educated. If parents read to their children, those kids often gain a love of literature and may pursue education for pleasure, self-advancement, as well as advancement to their careers.

Another branch may be devoted to self-respect. Parents can help influence a child’s perspective of self-worth by acknowledging a child’s successes. We would want to avoid giving them false praise but to let them gain true victory through efforts of training, work and dedication.

A different branch may be dedicated to physical activity. Sometime I am not as dedicated about improving my health as I could be. I have seen some wonderful examples of parents doing activities with their families through family devotional, vacation or home evening events. Families will hike or swim together. Not only do kids learn through their parents the virtues of being fit, physical, but if activities are done outside the home, they may gain a stronger appreciation of nature.

A separate branch might be relationships. The success of a relationship between a husband and wife can echo through to the relationships of siblings. When siblings grow up, the type of parents they become can be influence by their home life.

There are so many more examples of branches that could be discussed. As parents and grandparents, I invite you to take a time of devotional or home evening to illustrate your own family tree. Make a group discussion of it. Think what the roots are that are the base of foundation for your family. Then illustrate the different aspects/branches that you think are important for the development and evolution of your family. Add to the ones I’ve pointed out. Are there certain branches that are under developed that need to be nurtured further? When you identify those areas you can plan as a family how that branch can be helped.

Knowing what kind of tree each of us has, can enable each of us to know how to nurture that tree.

If you have ideas to add to this topic, please feel free to post them in the comment section of this blog. Thanks

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Writing articles and videos:

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By the way, have a happy Friday the 13th. It is always nice when friends who share a similar passion share videos and article for others education. Here are a few some friends sent to me. Enjoy

Articles:

1. http://www.writingexcuses.com/2012/11/05/the-out-of-excuses-writing-retreat-and-the-thats-a-pretty-good-excuse-scholarship/

2. Good, Clean Books for Teens

https://www.goodreads.com/list/show/18107.Good_Clean_Books_for_Teens?page=1

3. Establishing romance arcs

http://romanceuniversity.org/2013/08/02/jordan-mccollum-six-steps-to-stronger-character-arcs-in-romances/

4. Hooking Your Reader

http://www.iwritenetwork.com/2013/12/hooking-your-reader.html

5. Cliffhangers – a Cheap Trick

Cliffhangers – a Cheap Trick

6. Some Professional Writing Advice

http://www.iwritenetwork.com/2013/11/some-professional-writing-advice.html?spref=fb

Video:

1. Stephen king interviews:

Morning Q&A Session with Univ. of Massachusetts at Lowell students

1. b. The evening event they mentioned toward the end of the QA session

(And not a duplicate of the morning’s conversation).

2. Probably the most entertaining, easiest to understand explanation of

Joseph Campbell’s theory I’ve seen yet.

http://io9.com/joseph-campbell-and-the-heros-journey-as-explained-by-602633720

3. Promoting yourself through social media

How to Use Social Media to Sell More Books, with Guy Kawasaki: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=135KGCLqC6Q

Please feel free to add on the list in the comment section of this blog. Melva

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Spelling Campaign:

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Good: Campaign

Bad: campain

There needs to be once center person, instigator or politician to run a good campaign

The he one person I and G for the good means you insert these characters into the word: campaIGn.

I you have an alternative suggestions for this word please feel free to share.

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Stage presence and physicality:

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We have received some excellent advice this year in our storytellers retreat, Roots and Wings. I really liked hearing from a professional actress on techniques to present ourselves more professionally in our storytelling. Kym Mellen gave a presentation on the topic of Stage presence and physicality. Kym is a professional actor and director.

 

I really like these presentations, and here is some advice. Kym had on performance. I didn’t have the opportunity to document all the juicy advice, but here are just a few suggestions.

 

–        When applying for a job, when you introduce yourself. Don’t say your name in such a way that it sounds like a question.

–        The more you can think in the character (consider the character’s motivations); the less the negative voice of your doubts will influence your performance.

–        Have some highlights of the characters you depict that will prepare you for the story you will tell. It will help prepare you to get in the character’s mindset.

–        The moment before you do a presentation has some phrases in the story in your head that will encompass the thoughts story. An example was given were Kym gave a scene of a reporter being ashamed of taking photos of tragedy. She felt inhuman because of it.

–        Outside the door practice twice before you preform.

–        Start on your voice with pieces that represent you as a person you’re presenting about.

–        Make discoveries in your story. One way to do this is to seek ‘Oh My Gosh!’ moments. This is where you come to a sudden realization of insight of the story that you hadn’t seen before. If you create an “Aha” moment before each sentence of the story and help you find new possibilities for that sentence and better understanding of the overall story. It gives you a sense of discovery.

–        For body language, you want to have your eyes pointing to the top right. This is a body language that is an indication of someone remembering something.

–        Some people will break up the stories with self-observations of character.

–        After each application to a job, write down how you did, what speech you gave, and what you wore. Do a self-evaluation. This type of log can help you analyze how to respond to pressure.

–        Some questions that a judge may ask themselves before hiring you are:

Do I understand the basic plot points?

Do I believe you?

Do I care much more?

Would I hire you now?

There was a lot more information that’s what’s been presented here. If you ever have a chance to attend this retreat in the future, I would recommend it. At least you have a little bit of an idea of some of the information that was learned during the weekend.

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Cover Letter Advice:

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I listened to a presentation that gave advice about cover letters. Here are some of my notes.

 

–        Set letter head format for your cover letter

–        Center name at tope.

–        Left side top? who to, in block

–        Right side, top include a color photo

–        Address cover letter by first name. When someone sees their first name they pay attention more.

–        Put a single line under  I’m applying for xxx

–        Centered: with me on your team you’ll get.

–        List in bullets.  Benefits — reason why they should hire you

–        An example, more personal time to <do whatever you learned from research about the reader

–        You don’t want to talk about yourself but always talk about them.

–        When quoting positive statements about yourself, include the name, position, and company of the person making those statements. You might even consider including a small headshot (in thumbnail) of the person saying the statements.

–        Things to touch upon:

1. more free time for leisure,

2. less stress,

3. look heroic for your boss

4. Boost your company income

 

–        Example: more personal time to hike, golf or read a book — my experience at… will save you many hours of time. In the research you find out that the hiring manager likes golf.

–        Next: create call out boxes that will help make your cover letter stand out.

–        Have a light color in background.

–        Look at what my fellow workers have said about me.

–        Make sure when you ask for input that you document their feedback in their own words. This provides social proof of hiring you.

–        End with thank you for considering me. I hope to join your team soon.

Sincerely

Name

Hand sign your name

 

If you like – some suggestions of what has worked for you in your job search, please feel free to share them in the comment section this blog. Thank you

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Like a pebble in a pond:

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Tonight’s topic could be a suitable fit for two blog categories of my website. It’s using object lessons to teach writing concepts which could work under teaching embellishments or my rock soup blog. For the sake of adding variety to teaching embellishments, I thought I’d put it under teaching embellishments to show how object lessons can be used to teach concepts of writing.

A friend of mine called me tonight. She was seeking advice on how to revise her book plot. She took a writing course and her instructors recommended that two characters of her book take more prominent roles in the plot. She called me to ask how she might be able to modify her plot to fulfill her instructor’s recommendations. The following is a revision some of the advice I gave her.

I mentioned that the plot of her book represents a pond. Each pebble that is dropped into the pond will start a series of waves that will spread out and influence the rest of the pond. In order for her to fulfill her goal, I suggested the following ideas.

First of all, I felt she needed to she write up a brief paragraph for each scene in her book. This will include all the scenes that do and do not have characters A and B present. Since she has already plotted out her book in her mind, she has a clear idea of where the book is going.

Second, I suggested that if she has not yet done so, she needs to create a character chart for character A as well as character B. I suggested that she defines each character’s likes, dislikes, their history, and their relationships with other people around them. I suggested she include their prejudices and what they like. We want to determine what kind of character they are at the beginning of the book. She may already have a defined idea of what these characters will do. But as she revises her plot, she needs to be ready to let the characters live their own lives. That means they need to have the power to change the direction of the story is there character makes a change. She might even consider creating a character chart of what the characters will be like at the end of the book, so you can see where their destinies lay. The plot of the book will be influenced by their actions as well as the actions of other characters.

Third, now she has an idea of the plot and she has a well-defined image of who these two protagonist are, she also understands what their future promises. I suggested that she began with each character having an inciting incident that will be the trigger that influences their actions throughout the rest of the book. I remember in my own writing. I was writing a fantasy book and a very observant writer friend noticed I did not have inciting incident for my protagonist. Because of her valuable advice, the book has improved with the sense of direction for the character as well as the plot. We want to achieve similar objective in this book.

Four: remember the scenes described in each paragraph. Below each paragraph, put in a note of how the actions of character A will influence that scene. Their words, actions, and the responses of other people around them will all make to the plot. Each character in the book has their own pebble in series of waves. As she goes from scene to scene, she can then plot out influences that will add complexity to the plot. This will add flesh the skeleton of the plot. The plot expands and develops with further complications. I encouraged the author that she does not want to be confined to her current plot. She must permit the plot to follow a new course is the actions of the character motivate her to do so. She will do the same thing for character B.

Another imagery that could be used for teaching writing could be the ocean. The Ocean can depict the rise and fall of tension or action in the plot. There’s also the rise of fall of character development, versus humor or perhaps action or a lull in the plot. Each of these rises and falls can add variety to the pacing, characterization, and tension of the story.

A third image for teaching writing is to compare the tension or suspense of a story to the flow of the river. A river does not go from point A to point B in a straight line. There are rocks, and areas of land that will cause the river to twist and turn to respond to the elements of nature it encounters. Just like a river, a plot will twist and turn providing surprises and unpredictable moments in the story. The rise and fall of the land can also be an image that can depict moments of high action or low action. The rise and fall of the river may also illustrate the bonding or separation of relationships between characters.

A fourth image of teaching writing could be the whirlpool. There will be moments in the rise and fall of a plot/river where a character will face some of their largest trials. They will face moments of despair and mounting doom. They will encounter a well of distress and personal loss. This whirlwind of trial may twist and capture them for long moments, pages and pages of tension and distress mounting the anxiety of the reader and a reader’s concern for the fate of character. It is only through the actions of the character and maybe other circumstances that permit the character to escape from the whirlpool.

My final imagery for writing is a gentle breeze.  Let’s say that is a plot point introduced early in the story. It is not referenced much, but it’s remembered as the reader progresses to the book. For example, in my fantasy book Pursued a character in chapter 1 has an inciting incident where he realizes that the country is under attack the mysterious events at different points of the continent. But this realization is not referenced much throughout the text, so his experiences in the early part of the book may act as a gentle breeze which constantly blows in the background. As the book advances that breeze turns into a hard wind. Later in the book it becomes a gale of influence. Will the protagonist be able to stand against the wind, or will it defeat him?

I find that images of nature make great illustrations for teaching writing. If you have some examples of how you have used object lessons, to illustrate concepts of writing or some other field and creativity. Please feel free to share these ideas in the comment section of this blog.

Thanks

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Tax Lien and Deed friendly states:

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I attended a tax liens and deed seminar and learned the following:

 

Here are some states that are good to do tax liens in:

Arizona

Florida

Maryland

Nebraska:

Colorado

Ill: 18% on line sales.

 

States that are good for tax deeds:

Arkansas

California

Florida

Michigan

New York,

North Carolina

Pennsylvania

Washington

Texas

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Spelling Furnace: 12-5-13

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Bad: furnice

Good: furnace

A furnace is what makes the air feel warm. That might be how I remember to spell furnAce with an A rather than a I.

If you have other suggestions for remembering this work, please feel free to share them.

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Book signings cont.:

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Every year I try to attend a wonderful writers’ symposium called Life the Universe and Everything. Here are some notes I took from a panel of author(s) who were guests at the symposium. These notes are a continuation of last week’s panel. Enjoy

–        Big-name authors will go to the biggest store in town and then have their affiliates of that same brand store advertise about the book signing.

–        This can sometimes bring people from over hundreds of miles away.

–        Create buzz of your book signing by arranging for interviews and school visits, etc.

–        Google how to do a book signing

–        Don’t rely upon the number of books sold to determine the success of your signing. Making positive personal contact with other people can mean success meet with the employees of the bookstore and make a connection with them. A personal touch provides success.

–        Sign all the books that are still in the store.

–        Drive-by signing is when you go into the store, cold & the books or to do it at the airport. You also have a chance to meet with customers for in the book section of where your book is that make contact with them.

–        Consider a book signing as a social event where you have a chance to go out and meet people.

–        Introduce yourself. Don’t try to sell your book as the reason for meeting people. Eventually they will ask what you write.

–        Try other venues besides bookstores such as state fairs woman conferences, Christmas fairs and schools and of course conventions.

–        Get attention in an unusual way. For example one author filled helium balloons and put in a chemical that prevents them from losing their fuel too quickly and might be called pi float. Then you add candy or weights to keep them from falling too high, and then paying at tag was signed that says you do a book signing in such and such area. Deposit them a different sections of the grocery store or where ever business you’re at

–        Libraries are willing to have you signed books, but you’ll want to see if the let you sell them.

–        The way the Stephen Covey seven successful habits sold his books was by giving businesses a discount. That has helped him get each of his books Brown bestseller lists.

–        Booksellers don’t like books that are not returnable. That often discourages them from getting books from an author that hasn’t gone to the normal publishing routes.

–        Once you have a revenue to show how me books you’ve sold that will persuade booksellers to host you.

–        For school signings. Email the flyer in advance for the kids a take-home and invite kids and parents to your book signing

–        See if it’s okay to sell books at the school, if not sit there willing to let you advertise. Give each child a giveaway, such as a bookmark.

–        Weekdays are a good time to do, book signings for children. Avoid weekends except perhaps Saturday afternoon.

–        When doing a book signing in Nice to be that night or tomorrow night to meet the short attention span of the children.

–        Bookstore good to have, book signings on Friday and Saturday.

–        Schools will also have a community relations person.

If you would like to add your own suggestions, please feel free to do so in the comment section of this blog.

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Logging into Facebook:

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These instructions are for people who have not yet created a face book account.

1. on your browser line go to “Facebook.com” <without the quotes>.

2. On the top right side of the page are two rectangular blank boxes. They will ask for the email or phone and your password that you previously created on your account.

3. Note the menu options at the top of the page. They all provide useful functions. When you click on each of them they will offer drop down options that gives you the power to perform various tasks.

4. Starting from the top right of the page is the * symbol.

When you click on *, it will give you the option to Log out or modify your privacy settings.

Home: will put you at the top of your page or relocate you to your most recent Timeline.

Find Friends: gives you the power to look up possible friends by city, employment, city and high school etc.

Your name: This will take you to the top of your Facebook page.

The blank rectangular box to the right: gives you the power to search for someone by their name.  Type in the name of the person you are looking for.

5. Now that you are successfully logged into Facebook, start looking up friends who you would like to communicate with.

 

Terms:

Friended: Friending is when a user of Facebook invites someone else to join their network of contacts. As a result, people can post their comments on your face book page and you can post comments on theirs. Back To article 1.

Log out: this gives you the power to control access to your Facebook account. By logging out after each use, your security is improved by controlling access to your account. Back To Article 2.

Subject Line: The subject line on a browser is usually the long rectangular line at the top of your browser page:  Back To Article 3.

Timeline: is the sequence of postings you present on your home page of various subjects you write about and share with your contacts. The most recent entry will be at the top and the older entries are lower down the page. Intermixed with your entries will be the responses of your contacts responding to your comments or they are giving updates on their own status or opinions on a topic. Back To Article 4.

If you are a long term face book users, please feel free on providing suggestions for an effective Facebook post.

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