My employer offers online videos on various topics to help employees. This one is from Daily Journey. This presenter is Dr Sarah. Any misinformation is the fault of the note taker.

• Difficult conversations can add to stress.
• Quote: it is not about feeling good but its about good at feeling.
• Quote: Forget about feeling good, just concentrate do what matters.
• We know that when we communicate with loved ones it doesn’t feel good.
• We tend to sometimes want to feel good especially when we’re having intimate, vulnerable conversations. It doesn’t feel good, it feels icky. It feels difficult, challenging, and uncomfortable. So, how can we feel ok with this? This is a difficult moment. It might be a moment when both of you are suffering.
• How do we get good at feeling?
• We have to learn to be in these difficult moments. We have to learn to sit, to breathe and – stay open.
• Let us not constrict or restrict.
• Let go, let be, let in.
• Try to let go of the stress and be with the stress. Let in the good.
• We are understanding our vulnerabilities. We can talk about us. What do we need to support each other? We need a moment of closeness together. How can we still how we love each other.
• Notice our own needs, your own feelings, curious about the others persons thought and physical sensations.
• Remember we all experience difficult situations.
• I am not the only one having a difficult conversation with a loved one.
• It’s about my needs not being met sometimes and their needs are not being met sometimes. We are trying to find a compromise.
• Concentrating upon what matters helps us tap into our values and the superhero within each o us. It helps us connect to who we want to be.
• When we face challenges, we can ask ourselves, how can I make my future self, happy?
• How can you make the person you’re talking to happy? They can be happy by how I stayed calm and grounded in the conversation. I remember kindness, compassion and empathy.
• Think when a little baby is upset or having a temper tantrum. They just need to be heard, loved and cared for. The same needs are for adults and relationships.