For a Relief Society project, a life coach was invited to come speak to the sisters in the ward. These are my notes. Any misinformation is the fault of the note taker.

• Quote: the joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives and everything to do with the focus of our lives. Pres. Nelson

A healthy heart:

• We have power over our thoughts.
• The brain is the tool of how we know our focus.
• Book: as a man thinks it so is he.
• Our thoughts a powerful.

The self-coaching model:

• This info is presented by a life coach by the name of Jody Moore. Check out her podcast better than happy.

There are four processes.

Circumstances:

• It is the factual thing outside of us.
• They are the boring part of a juicy story.
• Everyone agrees upon circumstances.
• Circumstances can be proven in a court of law what is what people say and do.
• Circumstances are neutral.

Thoughts:

• Every time there is a circumstance, there is a thought about it.
• Beliefs are thoughts that you think about frequently.
• Analyze what thoughts cause negative results.
• Thoughts or the need we give to the circumstances.
• Thoughts are opinionated.
• Thoughts are the reason behind her feelings.
• When something happens, we point to the circumstances and use it as the source of blame. It is always the thought that counts.

Feelings:

• Thoughts create our feelings. Thoughts cause a chemical reaction in our bodies and a vibration is created.
• Thoughts create feelings.
• Our bodies know how to process feelings but our heads at differently.
• Feelings are not true.
• Feelings of anxiety do not mean they are true. Worry pretends to be useful. But it is not. You need to create positive feelings to counter the negative feelings.
• When you have a feeling, see what thought is behind that feeling.
• Hormonal imbalances are not the cause of feelings discussed here.
• Feelings do not always feel good.
• Useful feelings include confidence love commitment
• Negative feelings are worrying or feeling overwhelmed.
• Feelings feel our actions. Feelings want to prove that our thoughts or true.
• Experiences create belief.
• Action: it is how you show up or approach life and everything else.

Result:

• If you are told it is cold outside, then you have thoughts about being cold, and then you have feelings that influence your actions. Then your actions may result in you wanting to stay home or feel miserable.
• As someone is stuck in traffic driving 30 miles an hour, they can feel frustrated. If you are driving home, you may feel frustrated at 30 miles an hour, then you think of your husband at home who is responsible for putting the kids to bed. Being stuck in traffic may not feel so bad. If you going to a party that you don’t want to go to then you may not feel so bad about slow traffic.
• When you look on a scale, the numbers you see, mean something.
• If you look at a bank account, $5000, and your college student, you may feel wealthy. If you’re a homeowner and must pay the next mortgage $5000 in the bank may not feel so well.

Our Successes in the Lord.

• We are doing well when we can control our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Do those in and you can be successful in God’s eyes. Paraphrase by Holland.
• You can control yourself and not others. We cannot control others we can influence others.
• How our brain works: the brain has two sections the higher brain. Which can involve our spirituality. The lower brain is the more natural man that promotes fight or flight tendencies. Our brains like to avoid paying. For example, a guy wanted to try out for the basketball team. But he was so worried about failing getting on the team he decides to not even try out.
• Analyze why you do certain things. The brain seeks pleasure such as sugar. Or maybe watch Netflix. These behaviors may act as a buffer. Do your actions give you a negative or positive result?
• If we have a circumstance that triggers the natural brain, we may want to just sit in response. This could be compared to us waiting in preparation to being attacked by a tiger.

How to Use our Brain:

• With a pencil in hand, download your thoughts. Write everything down. Don’t judge what you write. Separate circumstances from thoughts. See what feedings are caused. Analyze your internal thoughts or. What actions happen when you listen to these thoughts? Consider this alternative. Maybe I’m wrong. As yourself, is everyone feeling this way?
• Do I want to keep this as my truth? What other way can I think about it?
• One person has the motto all do all the hard things.
• The best way to test the thought is to see what feedings are caused.

You get to choose who you want to be.