These are a continuation of notes from Life, the Universe, and Everything, a writers’ conference. Any misinformation is the fault of the note taker. CIA Street Smarts for Women: Helping Women Avoid Abuse Using CIA Skills and Techniques.
– Tool: elicitation: the spy skill: learning of someone’s intentions, emotions, and secrets. It is like peeling an onion. We share information about ourselves.
– Elicitation techniques: (verbal martial arts techniques
– You-me-same-same: I also attended north elementary or I love music too.
– Assumption: you look like you have a bad night.” or “I bet you know so much about bunny rabbits
– King-for-a-day: What would you do if you were the President?” He might say I would nuke them all> could reveal if he has violence issue.
– Give-to-get; I love tomatoes and bunnies.
– Attributions: I heard that you had a lot of girlfriends. Heard you’re a player. Make them think you know about them more than you do.
– Current events: did you read about the riots in the US capitol? Bring up an article on a current abuse case. Works better than asking a direct question.
– Mild provocation: poke him your car looks like my grandma’s. Poke with a stick in a bush to see what birds fly out.
– Flattery: open the door to his ego; see if he jumps through it, talks about himself for the rest of the evening. You look like you lift weights.”
– What if you miss the red flags? Break up safely. Almost three women are murdered each day by a partner.
– Basic tips for exiting a relationship
– Try a compliment sandwich ‘you’re a very nice guy, I just don’t use in a romantic future for us, but thanks for the invitation, (or for the nice dates we had). Compliment, bad news, a compliment.
– Be fair (honest but not harsh, firm (decisive, unyielding) and final (not talking a break, not going to continue as friends’. this is a basic rule we follow in the CIA. for terminations. and it applies to all kinds of relationships.
– If there is any hint of him becoming angry or violent, break off the relationship in a public area such as a school library or restaurant. If needs to be, have a brother or friend in the next room or nearby table.
– How do we teach children about predators?
– Be aware of what kids are doing on the internet, there are fake on the internet. Don’t’ leave them alone on the internet.
– Remind kids that resect ends when a person of authority touches upon inappropriate behavior. Discuss grooming: is when trying to make connections with you by finding a common interest.
– Q: how to help someone in an abusive relationship?
– Need to be tactful. Help them see what they are seeing.
– Share if you have a person who has experiences that matched the victims.
– Let them know you love them and you’re there for them.
