I took notes at this writer’s panel at LTUE. Any inaccuracies or misinformation in any of these notes is the fault of the note taker.

 Sex is not always necessary.

• Some of these authors say that readers of urban fantasy expect to see sex (I have not necessarily seen this)
• What kind of sex does the character want rather than normal sex?
• Sex must relate to the relationship.
• No one screams because of one’s organism.
• When you use sensations or metaphors we have to be careful of becoming silly.
• Book blurb: is a way to get free e-books at a low price.
• Publishers will establish a vocabulary of sex terms for their press and what words are used.
• If you want to gear your material to a certain publisher you need to read what they publish.
• Focus on the characters motivations and emotions in a relationship for a successful sex scene.
• The way you write about the opposite gender when you have limited experience you need to research and asked the opposite gender.
• Men are visual.
• Don Savage has a podcast called Savage podcast discusses the various kinks or mismatch desires.
• People want different goals in relationships.
• One author when they illustrate the misuse of sex will show that doesn’t accomplish a good end.
• Many authors want to do consensual relationships.
• You need to examine your market to see what is sought for what you want to write. Each genre has its own troops.
• Not all sex involves intercourse
• Build each scene and emotions of the character.
• Include tension so it does not get boring.
• If you uncomfortable writing that it will show.
• Preparation is an important prerequisite to writing a sex scene.

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